One is Silver and the Other’s Gold

Tonight as I was sitting down to blog, I was reminded of that old song I learned in Girl Scouts…

“Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other’s gold. A circle is round, it has no end. That’s how long I will be your friend.”

Ok, so does this mean new friends will never be as precious as the old?? That kind of sucks.

Every time I go back to California to visit , I remember what it’s like to have my best girlfriends there by my side! I love it and miss it and wish I could have my friends with me always. When I come back to Sydney, I kind of settle back in the comfort zone of hanging out with Andrew and his friends 98% of the time and that longing for my friends sort of dissipates. Of course I have made some friends here and they are all great, but the feeling just doesn’t compare to the feeling I have when I’m with the  friends I’ve known forever. It’s hard because some of my new friends live a bit too far to make it convenient to hang out… or, because some are really great but already have their established circle of besties that you only really join in on for special events.

New friends are great, but do we sit on the floor in the hallway and do each other’s make up? Do I sit on the toilet while one of them does my hair and shows me how to wear my new hat? Do we sip cocktails for the fun of it as we’re getting ready to go out while we laugh and reminisce about things that happened 10 years ago? Unfortunately we don’t. I would love to… but it just doesn’t happen.

Having Amanda and Stephen here this last week reminded me what it’s like to have a best friend around. Sure I remember what it’s like every time I go home, but it’s different when your old friends come and visit you and take part in your new life. Until this week, none of my friends had ever really met any of Andrew’s best friends (with a few exceptions). Until this week, none of my friends had ever seen my apartment or my city for that matter.  Until this week, I had never had a best friend around to go shopping and compare accessory choices with. Having a boyfriend is great and all, but he doesn’t know how to french braid my hair!

I look at my sister who is 7 years older than me and I know that some of her best friends are friends she’s made in the last  few years. So I know it IS possible to become super close to someone you meet later in life, but I just don’t know how it could ever feel the same as the closeness you share with the friends you make in your teenage years.

I miss my friend and her wonderful boyfriend. We had a great week (which went by way too fast). Now it’s back to reality. Reality of knowing that I will never have my old friends here with me by my side. Sometimes reality sucks. I am now completely dependent on new friends, the silver friends, but hopefully some day silver can become gold.

And yes, I will give an update on what we did and where we went and all that fun stuff… but I’m waiting for Amanda’s pictures since I seem to have only taken some on 2 drunken nights. I’ll at least post 1 pic for the time being. One of me and my friend Amanda. It was a great week 🙂

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6 thoughts on “One is Silver and the Other’s Gold”

  1. Awww, I know how you feel. I did miss my girlfriends while I was in Australia. But, I also made some great ones while I was there. One, in particular, I really miss. And think how great it would be to be able to hang out with her all the time. In many ways I relate with her better than I do my “best” friends that I’ve known for years and years here back home. Because we became friends as adults and during a part of my life that my home friends simply can’t relate to because they’ve never lived overseas.

    So, no, I don’t think that is true that new friends will never be as precious as the old. It’s nice to have a history with someone, but it’s also nice to build something new, based on who you are now.

    That’s great that your friends came to visit you though. I had a couple of friends come, but I had to get married to get them there! 😉

  2. AWWW!! this made me cry!

    i had such an amazing time with you and andrew, and your friends and your whole life. traveling across the world was totally worth it. and i know stephen thought the same thing.

    i still think all us women should teach our men how to blowout and style our hair – we do so much for them, it’s the least they could do for us! 🙂

  3. Aww I totally know how you feel- I’ve been really lucky in that I’ve met some great friends at uni (it’s much easier when everyone is in the same boat of not knowing anyone) but I know what you mean about the friends from high school- so very irreplaceable! I was reminded of that this weekend at my birthday party- I really wish all of my friends from home could have been there too!

  4. This is a great topic!! I’ve had this conversation with many people, and I think there are two schools of thoughts (or maybe just two different experiences). One being yours, the other being that the friends you make later in life are the ones you choose- they’re not circumstantial (i.e. they don’t live next door, or in your dorm, or sit next to you in Biology), but they’re probably the ones you met through doing something you actually chose to do and thus you have way more in common with them. I talked to a guy I work with who lived in Canada for five years and this was his experience. I don’t know what I think- I see both sides. I have to admit though, when I go home and see my best friend from high school (actually, we met in elementary school), I still love her to death but we have NOTHING in common any more. Less than nothing, if possible! Anyways, this is getting too long- excellent post though!! 🙂

  5. I feel this way. Everyone around here that I am friends with has their own relationships that are key. I’m just an addition really. My closest friends are all over the place. My best relationship I ever had is in Washington State! My high school best friend is 2 hours away and I see her 3-4 times a year and we call every week. My best friend from New Hampshire is still there and we see each other twice a year and email all the time.
    David is still my best friend and I am glad that I live with him and see him almost every day 🙂
    My girls take up a lot of my time and even if all my close friends lived on the same road as me I wouldn’t see them every week. Life always gets in the way of great friendships. The true thing about good friends is they are always ready to pick up where you left off 🙂 –katrina

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